Ossip believed a promise unfulfilled a breach of loyalty it is a mistake to believe that intimate friendships will always run smoothly Long term friendships have
their difficult periods what makes them endure is not the absence of conflict but the skill of each difficult periods what makes them endure is not the absence of conflict but the skill of each in handling anger and resolving conflicts constructively I really enjoyed hearing all the wonderful stories of women and friendship I just got back from a trip with my family where we spent three days with my mom s best friend who she s nown since high school and it was fun hearing all
THEIR OLD STORIES THIS BOOK ISold stories This book is easy read and a nice feel good book I snapped it up from my church s library display shelf on a whim funny that it was there though as Christianity is not at all a central topic and I m glad I did It s a good reminder of the benefits of friendship the roles that friends play throughout our various stages of life and why we need time with friends The book includes lots of vignettes of many friend couples from around the country and it was fun to get a glimpse into others relationships It gave me the opportunity to reflect on my friendships and now I think I appreciate my friends even than before Very good book Not a fluff piece It caused some self examination of my relationship with Stephanie Are We Traveling in Different directions and The Bad Stuff chapters are very potent stuffMy favorite uote Oh the comfort the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words but pouring them all right out just as they are chaff and grain together certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them Conjure In African American Society keep what is wortheeping and then with a breath of indness blow the rest away George Eliot. Rful women in the world They write about friendships that have endured through hardship and misfortune survived the problems of competing with each other Looking through history and Hollywood real life and fiction they get to the heart of relationships between womenSomewhere in the meaning of the word 'trust' is the
assumption that a friend has your best interest at heart Friends can be the collaborators the instigators who make changethat a friend has your best interest at heart Friends can be the collaborators the instigators who make change They are often the ones who urge us to take a leap who jump with us or help us scramble back up the other sideThroughout the book there is an ongoing dialogue between Goodman and O'Brien that is sure to resonate with every woman who cherishes her female friendsTalk is at the very heart of women's friendship the core of the way women connect It's the given the absolute assumption of friendship It can be serious or funny painful or exuberant intense or joyous But at the heart of the connections made is one sentence that women repeat over and over 'I now just what you mean. Interesting look at friendship Great anecdotes Very heartwarming and endearing Reminded me of the chicken soup for the soul series with longer narrative I d wished the published produced this with larger type as reading on tired eyes made it difficult at times Make new friends and eep the old One is silver and the other is gold This is the theme that seems to travel throughout this book It is the story of Ellen Goodman and Pat O Brien and also the stories of the many friendships they look at in this book Stories of childhood friends as well as those friendships that evolve later in life at the workplace as a conseuence of husband s friendships and in many other situations As a result of reading this book I sought
out a friend I had long ago shared a locker with ata friend I had long ago shared a locker with at workplace I found out that she had passed away several years ago unbeknownst to me The take away from this book is Don t wait to reach out to your friends You never now when it will be the last time The praise uoted on the back cover of this book is well deserved intelligent fresh warm and honestYet not an easy book to critiue or reviewBrilliantly written it leads the reader down avenues of myriad types of friendships and what friendship means to any or all of us in similar and different ways It can possibly even stir envy of or longing for a deep and special friend relationship in one s lifeIt also covers female friendships in are poignant moments of friendship and then there s The Bad Stuff The authors also give a stab at dissecting difference between male and female friendships interesting analyses always and everything sensitively doneAt times for me a little long in the tooth and maudlinThat said I enjoyed reading this book. Friendship matters to women; it matters a lot; women today with lives often in transition depend on friends than ever Many who once believed marriage was the center of lifenow now that friends may be the difference between a lonely life and a lively one In I Know Just What You Mean Pulitzer prize winning columnist Ellen Goodman and novelistjournalist Patricia O'Brien provide a thoughtful deeply personal look at the enduring bonds of friendship between women Friends for over a uarter of a century they bring to their book the uniue mix of insight and humor that only such a long and rich relationship can produceYou might say we've been writing this book for twenty six years Maybe it's the logical outcome for two writing friends It amazes us now to look back and see what we've been building the story of our friendship is the story of our divorces our children careers loves losses remarriagesWe rarely made a move without each other's opinion or listening earWe moved from youth through middle age with the reuisite And admire the authors for a well thought out subject and for friendship s sake helping each other writing it together or alternately This was an insightful read and very well written The only complaint is there were too many examples of other friendshipsAt some point I only wanted it to be about Ellen and her friend and the other examples got confusing A copy of this book is
on the way to my friend Mary I read this book every morning for 30 minutes while on the ellipticalthe way to my friend Mary I read this book every morning for 30 minutes while on the elliptical I laughed I cried I called my girlfriends and thanked them for being the support that we need so badly as we ride the roller coaster of life I liked some parts of this book a lot Others not so interesting Some of the great uotesP 155 A time of superficiality So we now that women s lives go through a striking number of transitions none of which may be permanent It s no surprise that we leave friends scattered by the roadside But life is long and the transitions that seem so stark at one point in a life may fade If there is one thing we have seen it s the possibility and importance of allowing differences eeping the elasticity of the bounds we don t want to break P 165 We want it real not nice yet it is so hard to stay in the real And so
hard to hear the real The tension between being nice and being real is profound Women want friendship toto hear the real The tension between being nice and being real is profound Women want friendship to nice too In friendships women tell themselves relationships can move smoothly No conflict need apply But real relationships come with inevitable scrapes nicks and the middle sized wounds They come with disconnection They come with conflict and hurt and even betrayal Real includes everything from a birthday that is forgotten a criticism that cuts to the uick a secret accidently blown a piece of Ccumulation of both wisdom and caution that when shared made each of us stronger than we would have been aloneDrawing on interviews with numerous women from all stages of life teenagers young mothers elderly women women in politic and business sports and media celebrities the authors reach beyond their own experiences providing an intimate look at friendships that begin everywhere from indergarten to nursing homes They tell the touching funny and sometimes painful stories of women who don't shy away from confronting the problems and demands of friendshipWhen we asked women how theydefined what a close friend is they leaped past such ualifiers to describe the impact being nown and accepted understood to the core; trust and loyalty you can count on having someone on your side Having someone to share worries and secrets as well as the good stuff of life Someone who needs you in returnThe authors explore the problems of famous friends how do you stay close when your best friend is one of the richest and most powe.